In two years time will it really matter if you got those new trainers, or the latest phone? Will it matter what car you were driving or what that one person said that one time they were drunk? Probably not. There’s always an exception to the rule, and no one knows for sure, but even things like heartbreak and loss of jobs, while at the time it sucks, in 2 years time you more than likely will look at it and feel the same as you did in the moment.
I’m a strong believer in not acting on things straight away, its important to think about your options and choose how you react carefully. Easier said than done I know, but at the same time you don’t want to make things worse by rushing into a reaction you may end up regretting. Nonetheless all decisions you made in the past got you to where you are today, and regardless of how you feel about this theory, you are who you are today because of what you’ve learnt in the past. This doesn’t mean your past defines you, but it does means you can learn from mistakes. I regret nothing, and that is because I choose to regret nothing. I could regret attending an event where I was being assaulted, or I could regret moving away from my family and friends, but if neither of those things happened, I would not be where I am today.
By no means is my life perfect, I don’t have a dog and my family and friends live miles away from me, however I do have a really good job, good people in my life and I love my life. If you’re going through something right now, or know someone who is, think about the 2 year rule. Time is the greatest healer; we are greater than the external factors of life that throw us off the ‘ideal’ path. Bad things happen that you have no control of all you can do is chose how you react.
Next time you’re faced with something that puts you ‘off track’ of your end goal, take time to think about your options. How else can you react? My phone, along with my friend’s phone was stolen on Saturday, which is pretty bad on its own but the circumstances made it ten times worse. Now while I was furious at the time, and pretty heartbroken I’d lost pictures from the last 4 days (which in my life is a lot of pictures) in the long run it wasn’t the end of the world. While paying for two phone contracts isn’t ideal, I am still alive, I wasn’t hurt and everything is going to be okay. In fact, I bought myself an upgrade so there’s a silver lining.
The moral of the story is, if you focus on the negatives it will consume you. Life is too short to think about the bad, and simple changes like forcing yourself to see a tiny bit of good in a bad situation is actually very beneficial. It’s very easy to look at how bad things are and it’s easy to beat yourself up over things you may have been able to do differently but realistically you can’t change the past. You need to learn from bad situations and find a positive in everything.
You can’t have the good without the bad.