There comes a time in all of our lives where we might find that there is a huge role reversal between ourselves and our parents. Our parents who once cared for us as babies, nurtured us through school and helped up with our hardships and we entered the world of adulthood, may find they are now leaning on us for support and it can be quite a difficult thing to process. It is hard to keep emotion out of it, and it is paramount to be sensitive to the matter, especially if they are finding smaller tasks harder than usual. I wanted to share with you some of the ways you can handle the situation when the time comes to nurse or care for an elderly relative or parent.
Remember their feelings in all of it
One of the best things you can do when it comes to taking care of someone else who perhaps once took care of you is to remember how they may be feeling. They may be finding this transition just as difficult as you are and find it hard to understand and even be accomodating for when you are asking them to do things or trying to help them in some way. It is a hard transition of care, and one that may take some time for you both to navigate what will work and what perhaps doesn’t. Try and remember how they might be feeling.
Consider the best care for them
It may sound like a hard decision to make, but depending on their condition or mental state, you do need to consider what might be the best option of care for them. Some people can’t be there all of the time, but that relative or parent may need 24 hour care of observation. It is hard, but try and discuss the options with everyone involved. For things like dementia or alzheimer’s, where it is only going to get worse more than better then dementia care homes could be considered. If it is more physical than mental, then a nurse coming in regularly could be the answer to help administer medication or help keep them comfortable. Only you can make that call.
Are there ways of taking care of them without intruding?
Some parents or relatives may be very against you trying to do things for them, or perhaps be there as often as you need to be, so this is when wearable technology could really help. While some older people may be adverse to technology, with a bit of guidance it could help them get through the day. A specific alzheimer’s clock is perfect for someone losing track of days and times, appointments etc. A watch that reminds them to take medication perhaps, or allows you to send message directly to them when you can’t be there. There are options to consider.
Finally, throughout all of this, don’t forget to take care of yourself and consider our feelings and emotions. It can be hard to be the strong one, so allow yourself private time to deal with the situation yourself. I hope this helps you in your time of need.